YOU Decide What Makes You Happy!
From time to time, I travel with friends for part of their vacation or mine. One really big observation comes out of this: People are very opinionated about vacations! Personally, I like beaches. Mostly ocean beaches, but I’ll take a lake beach if the weather is good. And I’ll take a bad beach over a […]
We Should Rethink Our Obsession with a Good Ending
The first time I read Little Women, I enjoyed it so thoroughly that I remember wishing that it would not end. As I turned the pages and the remainder got smaller and smaller, I started to feel a sense of loss simply because the wonderful story would be over.
Millennials (and Gen X) Are Not a Problem to Be Dealt With
I have never believed most of the common wisdom spread about Millennials (and Gen X and Gen Z). And after about fifteen years of hearing “advice” focused on these younger generations, I think I finally figured out where the advice goes bad: It is extremely superficial and meaningless
Your Mind Doesn’t Do You A Lot of Favors
When we recall memories, we also apply filtering. As we pull them out of storage, we re-write them just a bit to fit within our world view and to provide consistency with other memories.
Defend Your Sanity: Make Your Own Zoom Rules
A year ago, many people had never heard of Zoom. We have been using it for years. In fact, because of various programs I run, my company has four separate Zoom logins in order to accommodate all of our training programs and needs under one account. But the world changed when . . well, when […]
Changing Your Mental Channel
In the midst of the non-stop “virus” coverage, I have heard and read several comments about a daily phenomenon that few of us ever think about: Using our “commute” time to switch from one role we play in life to another. For example, the routine of dropping off kids and then driving to work is […]
The Power of Disappearing
Many years ago, my friend Arlin Sorensen was given an award at a conference I was attending. In his acceptance speech, he made a profound statement that stuck with me permanently. He said that his father once told him this: “Don’t worry what people think about you. They probably don’t.“ Maybe I was just in […]
The Beauty of a Blank Slate
I have a filing system that allows me to basically restart the filing system each year. In my cloud drive, I create a folder for the year. Then, within that, I create folders for all the normal things one might have: Operations, Clients, Appearances, Marketing, and so forth. The new year’s folder is normally created […]
No Whining, Please
Did you ever say something you regretted? I mean regretted immediately. Before the sound waves actually reached the other person’s ear, you were wishing you hadn’t said that.
Being Yourself Can Be Hard Work, But It’s a Lot Less Stressful
One reason psychologists and sociologists will always have plenty of work is that human beings are very complicated things.
